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After the UEFA Championship League finals when Inter Milan’s coach announced
that he would be joining Real Madrid, I had my first M word. His statement
brought the phrase from the movie Jerry McGuire to my mind show me the
money.

So my first M word is money. What? You didn’t think it was Mourinho, did
you?

Everyone can tell a story about money. There’s one for when we have it, one
for when we lacked it and one for when we were at that parking lot and it was
right there near our car asking to be picked up.

The stories from women in relationships with someone wealthy are usually
about ladies running after their men. While the women in relationships where
they aren’t as wealthy, tell stories with pursed lips and a hint of regret
about how they could have been with Shehu, who is now the Governor of some
state.

Whatever the stories, money is important in every relationship because it
determines what decisions we make, from how much time we spend together to
where we live and the car we drive.

That being said, I want to explore a different side of money; the side that
subtly reminds me of a mistress and should be picked up on.

We spend hours at work daily. We are constantly looking for ways to make
money. We juggle many things and many men, particularly those abroad, find
themselves holding down multiple jobs, working night shifts and the women sleep
alone night after night. This time, the woman taking him away, is money.

When he finally comes home, he’s fatigued and however alluring your
negligee, Mr. Man needs his beauty sleep. Besides, junior is already whimpering
in his bed anyway, so you have to get up there and then.

Resentment soon begins to build because you hardly see him and you are tired
of words like ‘ Honey I’m doing it for us’,’ I have to work all weekend on a
show’, ‘I need that overtime’.

In some cases, where you do see him, he’s snapping about every item that is
finished in the house, which does nothing to help the fact that you are tired
of lonely nights and need some.

You scamper from here and there and devise new ways to make what you have
last a little while longer but it is just never enough.

The pettiest things set you both off and you argue on top of your voices
when money is absent. Not to mention the frustration of holding off those
passionate dreams that once meant the world to you but would never see fruition
without money.

Evidently, we need money to live, however, we must realise that money will
never be enough and so we ought to actively ensure that it doesn’t take over
our lives.

Studies state money as a major cause of broken relationships but I think it
can also be the glue that keeps them together with proper planning, budgeting,
becoming and staying debt free so that we enjoy our marriages.

And there is my other M word; Marriage. I could not have an A-Z series on
marriage without it. After all, the goal of marriage is staying married.

What we encounter as we navigate through sometimes murky waters in marriage
varies and how we relate with money can help the navigation process.

I personally define marriage as the welding together of two hearts, lives
and people so that they are inseparable and learn to live as one.

The learning experience is long, emotion packed and worth every step because
nothing on earth beats the knowledge that this one person gets you, flaws and
all yet willingly holds on to your hand whispering, I’ll walk life’s road
with you anyway.

Money well managed, makes marriage that much more magnificent. M is for
Money and Marriage!